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Communication and Alienation

April 29th, 2020

Effective communication doesn't come easy. There are a few important factors:

For effective communication, all factors must align. The speaker must understand the hearer so that ideas can be communicated.

When these factors aren't aligned, well-intentioned words can have a detrimental effect. Well-intentioned, but poorly spoken words can alienate the people you seek to serve. At first, misaligned messaging may be passed over. However, over time people begin to check out. They ignore, unsubscribe, unfollow, or leave.

We don't have to alienate people from our cause unnecessarily. Take time to consider who you are speaking to and how the message will be received.

Example: Making People the Problem

A major cause of alienation is making people the problem.

In this situation, there's an issue that should be addressed. Perhaps folks are doing something harmful to themselves or others. But they don't realize it. We must separate the problem from the audience. Consider the following examples:

The audience is not the issue. The issue is the issue. Deal with the problem with as much grace as possible.